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Product Description Although we live in an ocean of words, we rarely acknowledge their power to uplift or put down, to inspire or discourage, to help or hurt. But in this jewel of a book, Hal Urban -- parent, award-winning teacher, and author of the classic Life's Greatest Lessons -- shows us simple and immediate ways that we can use language to change lives -- both our own and those around us. Review Ken Blanchard coauthor of The One Minute Manager® and The On-Time, On-Target Manager Positive Words, Powerful Results is a delight. Don't miss buying it. Pat Croce author of I Feel Great and You Will Too! and Lead or Get Off the Pot! Hal Urban is the Norman Vincent Peale of the twenty-first century. His words will help you choose yours more deliberately. Pat Williams Senior Vice President, Orlando Magic Every parent, teacher, coach, and boss needs to read these wise principles. This old world will be a far better place. Robin Sharma author of the national bestseller The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari A most insightful and thoughtful book from a most insightful and thoughtful man. Read it and grow. Thomas Lickona author of Character Matters and Raising Good Children If you want to complain less, compliment more, and use words to transform your life and the lives of others, read this gem of a book and put its priceless wisdom into practice. About the Author Hal Urban was a high school teacher for many years and also taught at the University of San Francisco. He is a well-known leader in the Character Education movement and is in constant demand as a speaker at national conferences and school and community events. He raised three sons as a single father and now lives in Redwood City, California, with his wife, Cathy. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Introduction Two Simple Reasons for Writing This Book 1. To Increase Awareness of the Impact Our Words Can Have We live in an ocean of words, but like a fish in water we are often not aware of it. -- Stuart Chase The above statement was written in 1953 by a scholar who conducted extensive research on the power of words. Much has changed since then. There are about a billion more people, the literacy rate has risen dramatically, countless new methods of communication are available to us, and we've added thousands of new words to our vocabulary. So the ocean of words we live in today dwarfs the one we lived in during the 1950s. But some things never change. We seem just as unaware of their impact today as we were fifty years ago. Maybe more unaware. I think this is so because we so often take things for granted. Words are tools that we've always had access to and have used every day since we started talking. Because they've always been there and because we use them so frequently, we get into verbal ruts. We often talk without thinking first and without being aware of the impact of our words. Yet they can have a powerful impact -- both on others and on ourselves. Kahlil Gibran, the much-loved poet from Lebanon, wrote more than thirty years ago that "...in much of your talking, thinking is half murdered." Again, I don't think much has changed. "Put your mind in gear before putting your mouth in motion" is one of those timeless axioms that we too often forget. I hope to offer several practical reasons here for honoring it and for teaching and helping others to do the same. We need it more than ever. 2. To Encourage the Use of Words That Celebrate and Affirm Life I can live for two months on one good compliment. -- Mark Twain It's been said that language is an index of civilization. What we hear all around us every day literally speaks volumes about our culture, our ethos, and our consideration for one another. I'm not alone in my belief that much of the language we've been hearing for the past thirty years has tarnished that civilization. In the late 1960s, people were urged to "let it all hang out," and they'