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Product Description REVISED AND UPDATED WITH NEW MATERIAL ON CYBERBULLYING AND HELPING GIRLS HANDLE THE DANGERS OF LIFE ONLINE When Odd Girl Out was first published, it became an instant bestseller and ignited a long-overdue conversation about the hidden culture of female bullying. Today the dirty looks, taunting notes, and social exclusion that plague girls’ friendships have gained new momentum in cyberspace. In this updated edition, educator and bullying expert Rachel Simmons gives girls, parents, and educators proven and innovative strategies for navigating social dynamics in person and online, as well as brand new classroom initiatives and step-by-step parental suggestions for dealing with conventional bullying. With up-to-the-minute research and real-life stories, Odd Girl Out continues to be the definitive resource on the most pressing social issues facing girls today. READING GROUP GUIDE AND TEACHER’S GUIDE available at www.marinnerreadersguides.com Review Praise for ODD GIRL OUT "There has not been so much interest in young females since psychologist Mary Pipher chronicled anorexics and suicide victims in her 1994 bestseller, Reviving Ophelia."-- The Washington Post "Provocative . . . Cathartic to any teen or parent trying to find company . . . it will sound depressingly familiar to any girl with a pulse."-- Detroit Free Press "Encourages girls to address one another when they feel angry or jealous, rather than engage in the rumor mill."-- Chicago Tribune "Peels away the smiley surfaces of adolescent female society to expose one of girlhood's dark secrets: the vicious psychological warfare waged every day in the halls of our . . . schools."-- San Francisco Chronicle "Passionate and beautifully written. A significant contribution to our understanding of the psychology of girls." —Michael Thompson, co-author of Raising Cain An American School Board Journal Notable Book in Education About the Author RACHEL SIMMONS, best-selling author of Odd Girl Speaks Out and The Curse of the Good Girl, is an educator and cofounder of the Girls Leadership Institute. A Rhodes Scholar, she has appeared on Today, Oprah, and other major shows, including her own PBS special, and writes frequently for Teen Vogue. www.rachelsimmons.com Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. chapter onethe hidden culture ofaggression in girls The Linden School campus is nestled behind a web of sports fieldsthat seem to hold at bay the bustling city in which it resides. On Mondaymorning in the Upper School building, students congregated languidly,catching up on the weekend, while others sat knees-to-cheston the floor, flipping through three-ring binders, cramming for tests.The students were dressed in styles that ran the gamut from trendyto what can only be described, at this age, as defiant. Watching them,it is easy to forget this school is one of the best in the region, its studentsanything but superficial. This is what I came to love about Linden:it celebrates academic rigor and the diversity of its students inequal parts. Over the course of a day with eight groups of ninthgraders, I began each meeting with the same question: “What aresome of the differences between the ways guys and girls are mean?” From periods one through eight, I heard the same responses.Girls can turn on you for anything,” said one. “Girls whisper,” saidanother. “They glare at you.” With growing certainty, they fired outanswers: “Girls are secretive.” “They destroy you from the inside.” “Girls are manipulative.” “There’s an aspect of evil in girls that there isn’t in boys.” “Girls target you where they know you’re weakest.” “Girls do a lot behind each other’s backs.” “Girls plan and premeditate.” “With guys you know where you stand.” “I feel a lot safer with guys.” In bold, matter-of-fact voices, girls described themselves to me asdisloyal, untrustworthy, and sneaky. They claimed girls use intimacyto manipulate and o